To empower others, believe in their ‘Future Best’

Sunday morning and I’m thinking of all the projects I’ve got going and what has inspired them. I’m blessed. Why such big goals and great expectations? I’m always looking to improve. I think it was Catherine Ponder who called it “divine dissatisfaction”.

According to Ponder, we're all given the gift of "divine dissatisfaction".

Yet, I’m keenly aware that no one pulls off greatness in a vacuum. I’m so grateful for the people in my life who have opened doors to my growth through unflinching belief.

These people have an abiding trust in my greatness. I love to be near them, share my victories and lean on them for counsel. They make up what I affectionately call my “Love Posse”. They make it easy to keep believing in myself. (Accepting new members daily, by the way!)

I also have teachers who are in the “Rascal Pack”. They’re the ones from whom I’ve learned many lessons, yet more reluctantly. You have those in your life, too, right? God bless ‘em, several have come to be lifelong treasures.

Whether your support crew comes by way of the Love Posse or the Rascal Pack, its all ultimately support. It’s how you choose to perceive them. To see all as supportive players in your growth, much temperance and forgiveness may be required. Forgiveness is the scientific alchemy that can transmute lead to gold in one’s countenance, even in their physical body. It unlocks immeasurable potential.

Forgiveness as alchemy

Forgiveness releases the bonds of damning perceptions. Think of how limiting it feels when you meet someone who still sees you as your former, less-enlightened self. Perhaps you’ve reconnected with a teacher or a family member who knew you by your former reputation. If that was a good thing, that’s great, but if not, it can feel pretty bad. Are they blind?, I sometimes wonder privately. Many times they’re sure they’re justified.

What happens when you get together with family at Thanksgiving? If you spied on most families, its like someone turned back the clock and everyone’s resorted to their former roles, complete with all the hot-buttons still at the ready. Old grudges and stories surface.

Movin’ on up!

I think that’s why we want to move out and move on once we get older, why we change jobs and move to new towns. We’re seeking a fresh start with people who will see us as new. Somehow the energy of newness inspires the expression of pure potential.

Even if unconsciously, we all want to grow, improve, excel, and thrive. We’re drawn like a magnet to the environments that best support that expression. We also have loved ones we want to support. We may have trouble doing that with our long-term relationships. But we want fulfillment, we want it all. So what’s the solution?

Rosebud to rose, an opening that can't be forced.

The gift of “Future Best“

To be leaders, we must cultivate the ability to see others, not as their past worst, but as their future best, and then we must develop the temperance to accept exactly what shows up, knowing that to be human is a process of unfolding.

My mentor in all things prosperity and mental mastery, Bob Proctor

I heard Bob Proctor say recently how the most traditionally prized flower is the rose. For all its beauty, we would never think of forcing a rosebud to bloom, to do so would destroy it. I think that applies here.

But in case you were wondering, yes! This is a skill of the highest emotional mastery. It takes patience, forgiveness, compassion, charity, and a healthy awareness of what we are also seeking for ourselves. To get it, often we’re the ones who get that ball rolling.

You can create a supportive home, work or community environment. I believe at it’s highest level, cultivating a mutual belief in the inherent greatness in humans is the key. That “ethic” supports other important core ethics such as self-responsibility.

To extend the gift of belief to others is, in many ways, its own reward, yet it takes some faith. You never know what it will take to prime the pump and see your efforts reflected back into your own life.

Doorway, not doormat!

I’m not talking about being naive about abusive or recurring patterns; this has nothing to do with co-dependence. In fact, with the “gift of sight” I’m talking about, your language, boundaries, and self-respect will become more and more grounded. Your relating will become more constructive and true.

Think now of someone you’ve known and cared about for a long time. Perhaps its a parent, a sibling, a spouse, a child, a boss, or a business partner. How have they disappointed you? What is your current view of their ability to succeed or overcome a certain challenge? With our loved ones, we know all the blind spots, don’t we! What could you forgive that might set them free? What belief about them, if you were to release it, might set the tone to loose binding beliefs from other people in their life?  What could you choose to believe instead that would support how you wish they would be. It’s all choice. It’s all perception, and choosing a belief that empowers is its own reward.

Role-playing: You stay stuck so I can stay justified!

Have you ever noticed how we complain about someone’s shortcomings, but then secretly hope they stay the same? We’re usually not aware of this. You probably know people who are unwilling to let go of their negative story about someone, as if it justifies their position. It occurred to me recently that, on an energetic level, I might actually be helping to hold someone back! I do not want that on my conscience! And ultimately I know that holds me back. We want to make sure our “divine dissatisfaction” is just plain ‘ol sour grapes!

Set me free, why don’tcha babe?

When would now be the right time to usher in the greatness of those you love? What new victories are you now willing to see come forward in those you’ve previously held in bondage in your mind? It does matter. It’s not always easy to let go. But if you are willing, often that gets the ball rolling. I have found that my greatest moments of acceleration come when I let go of my fixed ideas of someone, forgive, and cultivate a vision of who they are really trying to become. I believe in the best in you, and yes, Rascals, that means you, too!

—Stephanie

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